I never used to be one to have New Year's Resolutions. It just seemed like another thing that might set me up for failure & I just didn't see the point.
Slowly but surely, I've come around to the idea, but I prefer to call them goals instead of resolutions. Maybe it just seems less formal & intimidating that way.
I have by no means achieved perfection at setting & achieving goals. I'm still somewhat clumsily working through much of this for myself, but I hope you'll find some helpful tips in setting goals of your own. And maybe we can learn together!
I like to start with a bird's-eye view of the year. At the end of this coming year, where do I want to be?
For me, I see myself having a better prayer life, making more meaningful connections with my loved ones, living healthier, writing regularly.
I'm sure there are other things I will add along the way, but that gives me a great starting point. Getting this picture in my mind helps me formulate my goals.
As a Christian, seeking God's help in directing these paths is crucial. We can often set these big goals that on the surface seem fine & good, but if we are not submitting to His authority in our life, we are bound for disappointment.
A fancy journal, a document on your computer, or a note on your phone - get those goals written down. It doesn't have to be complete or perfect, just list out what's on your mind. Some organizational gurus might call this a "brain dump." It helps you clear all the mental clutter. If you're a visual learner like me, seeing them in writing helps a lot.
As you write these goals, prayerfully consider which of these goals should take the priority. Start to organize & categorize them.
Remember that these goals will be revisited often. (You might even want to write them on a pretty worksheet like the one my email subscribers are getting in the inboxes!) They can be generic for now. We can get specific later. Just get them written.
Just like many of you, I am a woman who wears many hats. So, I find it helpful to break these goals into the various arenas of my life. For me it looks like this, but you might have other areas you want to grow in...
You might have different categories. Maybe you'd have a separate category for church if you happen to serve in a larger role there. Or maybe you are retired & don't need a separate "career" category. It might be helpful to make a "service" category for goals that involve charity work or community service of some sort. Maybe your family has some financial goals - saving for a house or an adoption, paying off student debt - & a financial section would serve you better. (This is why I'm sending out 2 versions of the goal-setting worksheet to my subscribers - so that you can make it your own.)
These goals might seem too general, so that's why we start breaking them down. Each goal has some steps that we have to take to accomplish them.
For instance, let's take my recreation goal of learning to watercolor.
For a financial goal, it could be helpful to divide into smaller monthly goals. And those goals broken down by what you can cut from your monthly budget.
Or a goal of eating healthier would be served by compiling a list of healthy recipes to try.
Or maybe you have a goal to declutter your house & you just need to work on one room at a time. Or join a decluttering challenge - there are so many on Instagram & Facebook this time of year.
Just take the goals you listed & make them into simple, manageable steps. So many resolutions fail because we dream big but don't actually plan out how we're going to reach that big dream. When a goal is made simple through planning, I feel like it's so much more possible & I'm much less likely to throw in the towel.
If you're still struggling with just how to get those goals set or just how to break them down to make them more achievable, fear not! There are so many experts out there that God has gifted as organizational & goal-setting guides. Two names in particular come to mind when I think of setting goals: Lara Casey & Emily Freeman.
Lara is the creative energy behind Cultivate What Matters where you can find all kinds of goal-setting resources, planners, etc. She also wrote a book of the same name & I found it really helpful. She has a heart for helping women set & achieve their goals.
Emily is the author of The Next Right Thing & also hosts a podcast with the same name. (Yes, I always get the sone that Anna sings in Frozen 2 stuck in my head when I hear this, too.) She's also very good at teaching you to reflect on the lessons you've learned. Just a lot of helpful tools & encouraging resources for goals & decisions.
These ladies have very different approaches - one is exuberant & brightly-colored, the other is minimalistic, soulful, quiet. I find I'm somewhere in between some days & need a little bit of both, but you might gravitate toward one more than the other. Or you might have another person you already follow for Gospel-centered goal planning! Please share in the comments so we can all learn together!
Are you a seasoned goal setter or are you a newbie like me? Do you have any tips & tricks that you'd like to share? Please comment below!
Cheering you on!
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